Quotes About Marriage
Quotes about marriage from throughout Christian History.
Because the early churches seemed to take stance against sexuality even in marriage, suggesting that sex was only acceptable for the purpose of producing children, I have added a quote page on Procreation. I am personally firmly convinced that this position came from the strong influence of ascetic Greek philosophies in Roman society because it so clearly contradicts verses like Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Cor. 7:5. 1 Cor. 7:2 and 7:9 say that a solution to passion is to marry, not to attempt to remain celibate even while married!
Anonymous, A.D. 80 – 130
[Christians] marry, as do all others. They beget children, but they do not destroy their offspring. They have a common table, but not a common bed. (Letter to Diognetus)
Ignatius of Antioch, A.D. 110
Speak to my sisters, and tell them to love the Lord and be satisfied with their husbands both in the flesh and spirit. Exhort my brothers in the name of Jesus Christa that they love their wives even as the Lord the Church, (Letter to Polycarp 5)
But it is fitting for both men and women who marry to form their union with the approval of the bishop, that their marriage may be according to God, and not after their own lust. (Letter to Polycarp 5)
Justin, c. A.D. 155
If we marry, it is only so that we may bring up children; or if we decline marriage, we live continently. (First Apology 29)
Irenaeus, A.D. 183 – 186
Springing from Saturninus and Marcion, those who are called Encratites [a branch of gnosticism; literally means "self-controlled"] preached against marriage, thus setting aside the original creation of God and indirectly blaming him who made the male and female for the propagation of the race. (Against Heresies I:28:1)
Clement of Alexandria, c. A.D. 190
For with perfect propriety Scripture has said that woman is given by God as a help to man. It is evident, then, in my opinion, that she will charge herself with remedying, by good sense and persuasion, each of the annoyances that originate with her husband in domestic economy. And if he does not yield, then she will endeavor, as far as possible for human nature, to lead a sinless life. (Miscellanies IV:20)
The marriage, then, that is consummated according to the word, is sanctified, if the union be under subjection to God, and be conducted "with a true heart, in full assurance of faith, having hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and the body washed with pure water, and holding the confession of hope; for He is faithful that promised" [Heb. 10:22]. The happiness of marriage ought never to be estimated by wealth or beauty, but by virtue. (Miscellanies IV:20)